If you have not read This Isn’t the Career I Ordered Parts 1, 2 and 3 of 4, you can read these below first:
About six and a half years ago, I started a payroll job in the corporate office of a temp company. Minus one employee that management let yell at people for some reason, it was a dream job for about 4 and a half years. While it was a nice break from management, I soon found myself helping my boss a lot, who was new to management. I also found employees coming to me for help and questions, and before long, I was training a lot of the new staff. It turns out that even without the title, I was a natural leader I guess. I don’t say this to brag, because sometimes it can feel like a burden.
My boss and I had a great relationship and once we got close, she always made me feel appreciated and needed. She eventually retired after 4 and a half years, and people around me were encouraging me to apply for her position. Was I ready for management again? I thought it would be different this time. I would get to go home at 4 or 5pm most days. I loved the company by this time and had hoped to retire with them. Before I applied for her position, I found out it was not being filled. The company was instead hiring a new Controller that would become our boss. However, they were promoting me and another employee both to Leads.
I was still happy. I thought, wow, the best of both worlds. I would not have all of the responsibility of management but some of the perks, including more pay, and maybe the opportunity for Payroll Supervisor or something else would come up one day. Even though this was actually a step down from where I had been before, I was excited and positive about it. Apparently I was too excited and positive about it, and some others I worked with seemed to show jealousy. It was a rough for a little bit, but that all eventually passed.
It was not long before I realized that none of us were a fan of our new boss’s management style. We would soon grow to not to be a fan of her boss’s style either. Her boss had not been there long before her. This was weird, because we did not have a CFO, but his position was probably the closest to that position, and if you have read the previous blogs, you know my history with CFO’s and Controllers. I soon stepped down from Lead, because I could not work that closely with my new boss. She was a micromanager, and I found myself having less control as a lead under her, as I did under my old boss as a regular coordinator.
For a while, a weight was lifted. I could easily handle my job now. I did not even get my pay cut, because they had never finished giving us the full raise promised anyways. For a while things were good, but every once in a while my new boss would start nitpicking things I did again. She would take turns doing this with everyone, and would come back to you eventually. She would write people up and fire them for things she did on a regular basis, including typos in emails and attaching the wrong thing to an email occasionally. Her instructions were never clear, so you always felt like you would get in trouble, no matter what you did. Being a former HR person, of course I tried to talk to HR and management, and so did others, but we soon learned no help would come from either. It really hurt and puzzled me. I once again had my heart broken by a company.
I really tried with the new boss for a year and half, before I finally quit. I gave my proper notice, and had another amazing send off with food, cards and gifts. My branches and most of my coworkers loved me and I loved them, and they did not want me to leave. I did not even want my boss to leave, I just did not want her over our department anymore, and neither did most others in the company. She was great at Accounting, just not at payroll or supervising people. I kind of felt like I was abandoning everyone else, but over the years, I finally learned to put myself and my family before any company. By the time I did quit, I was so burnt out, I needed a break from the corporate world altogether. I wanted to enjoy coming to work again, without all of the politics and games. I wanted to take care of pets, or children, or work in Senior Living again.
Thanks to my sister, I got a great job as a preschool teacher almost 6 months ago. My sister knew the Assistant Director and knew she was looking for people. Some people thought I was crazy for wanting to do it at first. At times, I questioned whether it was crazy, and at first, I figured I would just do it for a little while until I found something else. Not long after starting, I fell in the love with the job, with the kids, and with my coworkers. I realized I wanted to do this for a while. Now that I am in a more active job and not a desk job, I have lost 23 pounds so far, and am still losing. Unfortunately, we are now temporarily closed due to COVID-19, but the church I work for is still taking great care of us, along with the government, and my husband is still able to work.
Since taking the preschool job and especially since the temporary closing, I have more time to blog and work on things related to my book. Hopefully it will be ready for republishing by the end of the month. Of course, I would love to make enough money doing that and only that one day, but if that never happens, it will nice to at least do it on the side- to help some people, to donate some of the profits to charity, and maybe even make some extra money doing something I love, while also fulfilling a childhood dream. I hope you will continue to follow my adventures. Thanks for your interest and support! I have added a blog below about the church job I loved closing due to COVID, so there will probably be more following that one, as my job search began, yet again, sigh…..
Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook, or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here. Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos.