About Just Buy Her A Dress

  • Please scroll down below the comments/thoughts of this post, or any other blog/post for links to buy my book and to follow me on other sites, to follow my podcast, to be emailed when a new blog is posted, to see a link to video interviews, a search this site feature, contact information and more!!!
  • I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and it causes severe Anxiety. I did not get help for this until it got so severe after having my first child, that I got severe postpartum depression and did not want to live anymore. I published a book about my experience in ​2012. I began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine in 2019. If you are wondering where the name comes from, I once had someone tell me that they bought someone a new dress so she would not get postpartum depression. If only it were that simple.  I also regularly blog, mainly about parenting and mental health, and I am a regular contributor to the Mighty, a mental health website that has millions of followers. I have also had blogs published by MSN, Yahoo and News Break. I have also contributed to an article for The Huffington Post. I am a graduate of Auburn University, and now live in Calera, Alabama, with my husband, Jay, our daughter, Aubrie, and our two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. I hope to write more books in the future.
  • PostpartumDepression.org – Helping Women with Postpartum Depression
  • Postpartum Depression in Adoptive Parents – Post-Adoption Depression
  • Home Page | InfantRisk Center Great Resource for information on the use of medications for women who are pregnant or breastfeeding. Call at (806)352-2519
  • Postpartum Support International Helpline and website:
    1-800-944-4773 https://www.postpartum.net/
  • Help for postpartum depression, anxiety and rage | Happy as a Mother
  • https://www.shellyrobinson.com/ Raising Yourself Parenting Website
  • Books suggested by Postpartum Support International (my book is on this list!) https://www.postpartum.net/resources/psi-store/
  • Postpartum Support International Blogs including one of mine!  What I Learned About Parenting and the Postpartum Period Working in a Preschool | Postpartum Support International (PSI)
  • Huffington Post article I contributed to: What Moms Who Had Postpartum Anxiety Want Their Partners To Know | HuffPost Life
  • Top 100 postpartum depression paperback books and Kindle books on Amazon (my book is often on this list & has made it up to at least #26 before! It is updated every hour, so hard to keep up with sometimes, has also made it into the top 5 Motherhood & Pregnancy and Childbirth books on Amazon at times &the Audio Book has made it into the top 100 Books on OCD) https://www.amazon.com/gp/bestsellers/books/282839/ref=pd_zg_hrsr_books
  • Postpartum Depression Awareness Posters: If any of you work in a preschool/daycare, hospital, pediatrician or doctor’s office, or anywhere else new parents may go a lot, I encourage you to order these posters below or ask your employer to order them (or I think you can also print them for free from the site): https://www.postpartum.net/resources/psi-awareness-poster/
  • The estimates vary but it is estimated that 70 to 80 percent of women experience baby blues the first two weeks after having a baby. These go away on their own but another 10 to 20 percent develop postpartum mood disorders such as postpartum depression, postpartum OCD or postpartum anxiety. Approximately 10 percent of men do as well. These men and women could be your spouse, your child, your parent, your sibling, your employee, your boss, your coworker or your friend. Sometimes men or women develop more than one and how long they last can often depend on how quickly they get help. Less than one percent of women develop postpartum psychosis which is what you normally see cases of on the news due to women harming themselves and/or their children. Even most women with this disorder do not harm themselves or their children. Usually the symptoms are more obvious, so it is caught earlier and they normally get help earlier. What this tells us is that most women get depressed if even for a short time after having a child, but most of them do not end up harming their child. The fear of people thinking they will harm their child is one big reason a lot of people do not get help sooner. They are scared to tell anyone and they feel ashamed for their thoughts, even if they cannot help it and do not act on them. It is actually more common for the mother to harm herself. Suicide is the leading cause of death in new moms. Others suffer for years, never acting on any possible suicidal thoughts, but suffering in silence while it often starts to affect their entire life including their physical health, their marriage, their job, and their relationship with everyone around them, including their children. I just want anyone going through this to know, you are not alone and you can get better. A lot of people do not want to talk about it because it is depressing, which is why my book has some humor in it and so do some of my blogs and posts on my pages. Learning to laugh about everything again was another step in healing for me. If mood disorders are not treated, the effects and aftermath can not only last years, the harm it does to individuals and families can last for generations to come.
  • I will donate at least 10% of the proceeds of this book to various charities and organizations in order to provide support for, and raise even more awareness of postpartum depression/anxiety/OCD and other postpartum mood disorders. When purchasing the book, if you purchase it through the smile Amazon site instead of just Amazon and select a charity, Amazon will donate an additional 0.5% of your purchase to whatever charity you choose. You can do this with all of your Amazon purchases. I currently have mine going to Postpartum Support International.
  • What is Your Story? Would you like to share your own story or write a guest blog on my site? Click here for more details: https://justbuyheradress.com/2020/10/27/do-you-want-to-share-your-story-through-my-site/
  • I had Martina Maseko, the Outreach Coordinator with Elemy ask if I could add these valuable resources below to my site and after looking them over I was more than happy to share. Elemy is an innovative, tech-forward provider of in-home and online applied behavior analysis to help children on the autism spectrum meet their unique needs. They created a free educational guide on autism and suicidal thoughts. This resource explains how to recognize warning signs in neurodivergent individuals and discusses suicide risk factors and prevalence. Important topics, such as treatment options and advice for parents, are also covered. Please take a look: https://www.elemy.com/studio/mood-disorders/autism-and-suicidal-thoughts https://www.elemy.com/studio/mood-disorders/depression (ASD and overlapping depression guide)
  • Resources related to substance abuse and mental health and music therapy and mental health and suicide: https://recoveryatwhitehouse.com/; www.ridgefieldrecovery.com/drugs/related/pregnancy-and-substance-abuse www.drugrehab.com/guides/suicide-risks/
  • Childhood Bullying Resources and Prevention: I had Paula with NVISION, a free online resource dedicated to helping people live better by seeing better, contact me about children being bullied, specifically for vision impairment. I thought the information also had some good information on childhood bullying in general and how to handle, try to prevent, etc. so I wanted to share. “It is not uncommon for visually impaired children to be the target of bullying and harassment. To help students and families navigate and hopefully prevent this, NVISION recently published a free educational guide on childhood bullying for those who wear glasses. Please take a look: https://www.nvisioncenters.com/education/childhood-bullying-glasses/
  • You can find more information about Lucille Resetti, her book Life After Death: A Wellness Guide for the Bereaved and other articles at bereaved.org.
  • She Matters www.shematters.health “She Matters is a digital health platform designed to support Black mothers who experience postpartum comorbidities by providing access to community, culturally competent healthcare providers and culturally relevant resources. Additionally, we train healthcare providers on culturally appropriate healthcare via our culturally competent certification.  Our training is tailored to the specific nuances and challenges related to being a Black woman. The objective of the training is to improve the relationship between provider and patient as well as improve postpartum maternal mortality outcomes by increasing the six-week postpartum return visits for Black women and reducing the number of emergency readmissions for Black mothers during their postpartum period.”
  • Raising Yourself While Parenting https://www.shellyrobinson.com/raising-yourself/ “I define Raising Yourself as the art and discipline of cultivating awareness about your own parental triggers and reactions to prevent passing on toxic behaviors and patterns to your own children. It’s about creating more compassion, consciousness, and connection at home.”
  • Victorious Parenting https://victoriousparenting.com/ “Achieve the peaceful homelife you deserve.”
  • Boca Recovery Center for Children of Addicted Parents https://justbuyheradress.com/2023/02/17/resource-for-the-children-of-addicted-parents/


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