Resource for the Children of Addicted Parents

I was recently contacted by a great resource for children who have lost parents do addiction, Boca Recovery Center. Their website is bocarecoverycenter.com. I personally lost my own father to alcohol addiction about 15 years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter. Even before I lost him, I was mainly raised by my stepdad, and my father was more like a fun uncle due to his addiction and mental illness. We also did not speak the last three years of his life. It is something that stays with you forever and affects your entire life, even after they are gone. Boca Recovery has a guide for children of Addicted Parents below I wanted to share. I do want to add in addition to this below, that no matter how much you do or how much you love them, ultimately someone has to choose to accept help. You need to set boundaries to protect your own mental health in the process of trying to help them. The only thing you can control is taking care of yourself and your own mental and physical health, seeking help you may need for dealing with their addiction, breaking the generational curse, and getting help yourself early if you realize you suffer with addiction as well, or avoiding possible addictions/triggers in the first place if possible and trying to pass the same onto the next generation.

“Trying to cope with a parent’s addiction can be extremely difficult. We at Boca Recovery Center understand that struggle and wanted to help by creating an in-depth guide for Children of Addicted Parents. This guide includes important information like breaking the stigma, finding help outside of the home, talking with your parent, and more. Please take a look here: https://bocarecoverycenter.com/addiction/guide-for-children-of-addicted-parents/

Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook,  or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here.  Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos.

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Information on Social Security Benefits for People with Mental Illness

If you are currently suffering from a mental illness and it is affecting your ability to work and survive, social security disability benefits may be an option for you but can be a complicated subject for many. Knowing who qualifies, how to maximize your chance of getting approved, and how payments are calculated is crucial information to know. I recently had a law firm who offered a link to a guide about navigating social security disability benefits and includes just about everything they could think of. Check out the guide:

Social Security Disability Guide – m-n-law.com/social-security-disability-insurance-benefits-guide/

They put a lot of work into making this guide and thought it would be a great addition to my page. If you are local to Birmingham, AL I also know an attorney close to here personally that specializes in this same thing.

 
 


Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook,  or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here.  Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos. Amanda is also a Community Champion for a website and app about physical and mental health called Twill Care which can be found at https://www.twill.health/twill-care.

Music Therapy

I was recently contacted by Joseph, who is part of the Community Outreach team at White House Recovery & Detox, and their goal is to educate the public on life skills and essential therapies and resources for mental health and wellness, in hopes to raise awareness and prevention.  

After reviewing my website, they thought their new article on Music and Mental Health would be an excellent addition to my resources and I agreed, which you can see here, https://recoveryatwhitehouse.com/music-therapy-and-mental-health/ . I have also added their main website as a resource on the About section of my website.

Here is some more helpful information Joseph provided: “As you may know, mental health issues are at an all-time high with more cases of anxiety and depression than ever before. The silver lining to the pandemic is that the stigma around mental health has dropped, making it easier for people to seek the help they need. One type of therapy I’ve found interesting to learn about is music therapy. According to the American Music Therapy Association, music therapy is an evidence-based practice of a board-certified music therapist to help clients achieve non-music goals such as improving mental health and recovering from addiction.”

I have actually been meaning to add more to a newer section on my site called “Music and Mental Health” including some blogs and podcasts about how music has helped improve my own mental health, so keep an eye out for new posts on that soon! Please feel free to share in the comments how music has helped your mental health and what music specifically and how? Or as always, feel free to share with me privately if you want me to share your story confidentially.

Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook,  or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here.  Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos.

6 Ways to be More Productive During Addiction Recovery

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I personally have not struggled with addiction, but many close to me have or still do. This is a guest post written by This is a guest post, written by Lucille Rosetti. You can find more information about her, her book Life After Death: A Wellness Guide for the Bereaved and other articles at bereaved.org:

6 Ways to be More Positive During Addiction Recovery

When you’re focusing on recovering from addiction, it’s easy to get lost in feelings of guilt and shame. You might feel guilty for the grievances your addiction caused family and friends, or shame for the way you handled your finances.

These thoughts creep into nearly every addiction recovery process. Finding healthy ways to overcome them, though, will help you fully heal from your addiction. Staying positive is essential to being able to celebrate that you are a survivor.

Keeping this in mind, Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine takes a look at six ways you can start working on positive emotional empowerment.

Stop Negative Talk
There are plenty of great benefits to replacing negative emotions with positive emotions. According to the experts at Mental Health America, pessimistic people have a 20 percent higher risk of dying over a 30-year period than their optimistic counterparts. In addition, people who kept a gratitude journal were more upbeat overall with far fewer complaints. There’s plenty of reasons to get working on your new glass-half-full approach today.

Get Back to Work
Returning to work is a critical part of any addiction recovery plan. Working will help you regain your financial foothold and keep your mind on things that are beneficial to your life goals. At the same time, it can keep you away from negative social interactions and the emotions that come with them.

Be sure to talk to your employer about their Employee Assistance Program. As scary as it may be to share your addiction recovery with your boss, these programs are designed specifically to help people with personal issues that are interfering with their work. This helps the company reduce absenteeism and improve productivity, so take full advantage of it.

If you’re currently out of work, you could ease your way back by starting a career in freelancing. Whether you write, design websites, or offer video editing services, there are many jobs available through online freelancing platforms.

Put an End to Black-and-White Thinking
Black-and-white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing thinking, is when we believe that just because we have failed once, we will always fail. According to Planning Mindfully, you can eliminate this way of thinking with a few tricks: avoid using extreme words like “never” and “every,” reframe your thoughts, and search for middle ground.

Master the Art of Saying “No” and “Yes”
People who are on strong psychological ground know what serves them best and what doesn’t. It’s important for you to establish boundaries and learn to say “no” to things that will hurt you. Likewise, now is a good time to learn to say “yes” to things you want in your life, such as support from loved ones. The experts at Psych Central report that by learning to say “no,” you’ll be boosting your confidence and your self-esteem.

Surround Yourself with Positive People Who Bring You Joy
Spend time with a co-worker who told you what a great job you did versus one that talked about his latest drunk escapades. Or, reach out to family members who are living lives you admire instead of ones who are struggling and disenfranchised. Choosing to be around positive influences will help you reframe your negative thinking. Plus, research shows that strong social connections lead to increased happiness, improved health, and longer lives.

Enjoy More Music
Elton John may have put it best when he said, “Music has healing power. It has the ability to take people out of themselves for a few hours.” It’s true: music — whether through listening to it, learning to play an instrument, or musical therapy — has many wonderful benefits, including its abilities to:

⦁ Increase motivation
⦁ Improve mood
⦁ Reduce symptoms of depression
⦁ Help manage pain
⦁ Improve memory
⦁ Reduce stress
⦁ Help with insomnia
Help heal addictions, such as overeating and alcohol or drug abuse

Shifting to a more positive way of thinking takes practice. It won’t happen overnight, so be sure to give yourself plenty of time and practice. Start working now not just on your positive thinking, but on self-compassion. Remember, you’re human, and all humans make mistakes. Allowing yourself to fall down with grace is important. Now, it’s time to master getting back up.

Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook,  or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here.  Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos.

Easy to Implement Hacks and Tricks to Reduce Anxiety

Picture Source -Unsplash (https://unsplash.com/photos/rXrMy7mXUEs) “This is a guest post, written by Lucille Rosetti. You can find more information about her, her book Life After Death: A Wellness Guide for the Bereaved and other articles at bereaved.org. While I think some of this is helpful, as someone who suffers from OCD and anxiety, I realize cleaning and decluttering doesn’t always help your anxiety and sometimes having to do so may make it worse, while other times once the mess is gone, I feel so relieved. I personally have benefited many times from yoga breathing during a panic attack and it has helped calm me. I hate drinking water and have to force myself, so some of these hacks and tricks below are easier said than done, like the drinking one if you suffer from alcoholism, and of course we all have the intention of eating healthy, drinking healthy, getting enough rest, etc. but we don’t live in a perfect world and that is not always easy to do, but these things can help certain people at times, and some may be at least worth trying, especially when you want some immediate relief and don’t have medication, therapy or other methods immediately available, or if they take some time to help since they usually do…” -Amanda Dodson Gremillion

Easy to Implement Hacks and Tricks to Reduce Anxiety

If you ever have feelings of extreme stress or anxiety, know that you are not alone. In fact, one out of every five people have had some form of anxiety disorder and are looking for solutions. Luckily, there are many different natural methods that you can try to reduce these feelings and feel better overall as you go through your days. Here at Just Buy Her a Dress, we love to promote relaxation with our meditation and life coaching lessons, so we have great tips for how you can reduce the potential for anxiety attacks and live an overall happier life.

Listen to Relaxing Music

Whenever you are feeling stressed or a situation in life is starting to cause panic, take the time to listen to some relaxing music. Something soft or ochestrial will do wonders. To get the best experience, listen to your favorite music through a set of noise-cancelling headphones, which come in many different formats and sizes and you can take them with you wherever you go. Find a quality pair that fits in your budget. You won’t regret it.

Yoga

When you feel an anxiety attack coming on, then you need to take a moment to calibrate and centralize your breathing so you can return back to a feeling of normalcy, and you can do that by practicing yoga. The idea of yoga is not so much about losing weight as it is about toning your body while focusing on meditation so you can make your stress melt away. Even if you don’t often deal with anxiety attacks, yoga is a great activity to pair with cardio and weights to create a healthier lifestyle.

Clean Your Home

If you often feel anxiety while you are at home, then it could be your residence that is causing the stress. This can often be the case when your home is full of unnecessary messes or clutter because the lack of organization can cause confusion and a feeling of suffocation. You can remove bad energy from your home by clearing the clutter, wiping down all surfaces, and then you can ensure that that negative energy stays away by lighting some sage and bringing it through the home so it can do its work and cleanse the premises.

Avoid Fatty Foods

There are many reasons to consume a healthy diet. The most obvious reason is that by being smart about what you eat, you will be in better shape so you can feel better overall and live a longer life, but there is also a mental health component. Many bad foods like those sold at fast-food restaurants contain trans fats which slow down our bodies and make us feel sluggish.

There are also many fatty acids that can affect our brains and our behaviors, leading us to feel anxiety. While the occasional unhealthy meal is okay, try to stick to healthier options like salads, high-protein foods like fish, and nuts and almonds that are high in vitamins and antioxidants.

Alcohol is Not the Answer

If you are feeling down, the last thing you should do is resort to drinking alcohol to feel better. The issue is that by drinking beer and liquor, you can actually feel worse because these beverages are considered to be a depressant that slows down our bodily functions and the way we think. If you are feeling depressed, the best beverage you can have is a cold drink of water because it helps your brain to work faster while improving your concentration so you can be more productive and less anxious.

In the end, trying the tips above will help you to feel better overall so you reduce the chances of an anxiety attack and live a happier life.

Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook,  or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here.  Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos.

Pregnancy and Substance Abuse & Suicide Risk with Substance Abuse

This is not something I have struggled with personally, but many women do, and someone asked me if I could share these resources on my page and I really wanted to for those in need:

“We are passionate about educating pregnant women about the dangers of alcohol and drug use while pregnant. We’ve created educational Pregnancy & Substance Abuse resource guides. Feel free to take a look”:

www.ridgefieldrecovery.com/drugs/related/pregnancy-and-substance-abuse/
www.drugrehab.com/guides/suicide-risks/

Bio: Amanda Dodson Gremillion published her first book in 2012. She began revising it in 2019 and republished it as Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine. The story chronicles her experience with severe postpartum OCD, anxiety and depression. Amanda is a graduate of Auburn University, and now lives in Calera, Alabama, with her husband, Jay, their daughter, Aubrie, and their two dogs, Honey Girl and Cooper. She hopes to write more books in the future. Follow Amanda’s journey on Facebook,  or twitter at https://twitter.com/AmandaGremilli2 and order her book here.  Also, follow her on the Mighty here Amanda Dodson Gremillion | The Mighty Contributor or listen to her podcast here Just Buy Her A Dress and She’ll Be Fine • A podcast on Anchor . You can also find her on Instagram here Amanda Dodson Gremillion (@justbuyheradress) • Instagram photos and videos.